In times like these, it is important to keep in mind the spiritually inspiring Bible verse of Proverbs 29:15: "The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to himself disgraces his mother."
Are you not as close as you would like to be with your son, or are you perhaps worried that the two of you might grow apart as he grows older? Do not worry, it is perfectly normal for mothers to have some apprehension about their relationship with their son, especially as he grows up and develops his own unique interests. Even if the two of you do lose some common ground, it is still very possible for you to have a close and healthy relationship by following these four simple tips:
1 Make sure you always have dinner as a family
Young boys aren't always the best talkers, and it can be hard to get more than a "fine" when you ask your son how his day went. Setting aside a structured family dinner time every night can give him the space needed to open up a little bit more, especially if he knows he can expect it every day.
2 Take part in activities that he enjoys
Boys often enjoy connecting more through shared experiences than through shared words. If you want to have a close relationship with your son, then spend some time taking part in activities that he enjoys. Go to the park together and play his favorite sport, or learn and play his favorite video game and offer to play with him once he finishes his homework or chores. Your son will love to share these activities with you if he sees you show an interest in them.
3 Do not be a pushover just to make him like you
Your son is likely going to test your limits by acting out or asking you to allow him to do things that you are reluctant to allow. In times like these, it is important to keep in mind the spiritually inspiring Bible verse of Proverbs 29:15: "The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to himself disgraces his mother." If you always give in, then your son will learn that he can walk all over you. If you stand firm however, then he might be angry with you for a little while, but he will grow to respect you.
4 Make it clear that you want to connect
As your son grows and turns into his own person, you may go through times when you feel distant from him. During these times it will be important not to force the relationship, but rather to simply let him know that you are always there and always ready to connect when he wants to. As he begins to realize the importance of family he will be glad that you never faltered in your love and caring.
Doing your part to nurture the mother-son relationship will ensure that, once your boy is finished with his rebellious and hormonal teen years, he grows into a man that loves and respects his mother. Just be there for him as both a friend and as a strong, firm, loving parent, and you will not have to worry about growing apart.