As Les and Leslie Parrott said in I Love You More, "Before a single step is taken, before a move is made, spouses will need to realize that it's not who's wrong, but what is wrong that counts."
There is no doubt that the sacrament of Christian marriage is meant to be a sacred and lifelong commitment. The sacredness of the bond is what makes faith-based marriages so powerful and solid, but the strength of that bond can also present a number of unique challenges. When problems arise, division can begin to occur. In those times, resist attacking the person and attack the problem instead. As Les and Leslie Parrott said in I Love You More, "Before a single step is taken, before a move is made, spouses will need to realize that it's not who's wrong, but what is wrong that counts."
Those for whom faith is a central tenet see marriage as more than a mere social contract; the relationship is sacred in the eyes of God. Living up to that commitment and all that it entails can be challenging, to say the least.
Make no mistake - no matter how sacred or seemingly unshakable the bond, Christian marriages have their challenges just as more secular marriages do. A strong faith in God and commitment to one another is no guarantee of success. Many Christian couples have seen their relationships - and even their faith - tested by infidelity, lying, communication problems, financial difficulties disagreements over raising the children, and more. In short, Christian marriages can fall victim to the same types of problems that plague marriages in general.
The key to overcoming these challenges and emerging stronger is for couples to recognize when they need help. It can be hard for proud men and women - no matter what their faith - to ask for assistance, especially when it comes to intimate areas like marriage and relationships. Even so, it is important for couples to overcome this fear and reluctance and seek the help of a trained marriage counselor when needed.
Seeking the services of a marriage counselor is never easy, and choosing the right counselor can be even harder. There are many professionals offering these kinds of services, and it is important for couples to choose the counselor who can best help them to overcome the challenges of their marital relationship.
Understand the Power of Faith
Christian men and women may have at least one important advantage over their secular peers when it comes to marriage counseling. Many churches offer excellent marital and family counseling, combining the tenets of the faith with the tools needed to save a troubled marriage. This kind of faith-based counseling can be extremely effective, and couples who are having problems may want to first turn to their priest or pastor for assistance and guidance.
Even if the church does not offer its own counseling services, the resident pastor or priest may be able to recommend a marriage counselor who sees marriage as a sacred institution. Finding a marriage counselor is always a difficult process, but this kind of first hand recommendation can make choosing the right professional help a great deal easier.
In addition to traditional marriage counseling, Christian couples can also do some important work on their own by reading their Bibles and praying together as a family. This holy book offers a wealth of resources for couples who are facing life's challenges, including some valuable marital advice that has stood the test of time. Praying together while seeking the guidance of qualified professionals can help couples heal their troubled marriages and emerge as a stronger family unit.