In several instances the Bible teaches us that finding a wife who you love and who loves you is truly a blessing from God. "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord," reads Proverbs 18:22.
In several instances the Bible teaches us that finding a wife who you love and who loves you is truly a blessing from God. "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord," reads Proverbs 18:22. Another spiritually encouraging quote from Proverbs 19:14 tells us that "houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the LORD." These verses make it clear to all husbands that their wives are to be loved, cared for, and cherished, because God has specifically entrusted her to your arms.
Though it is not often talked about, a big part of the love and caring that a Christian husband is meant to show his wife is to recognize that, during lovemaking, her orgasm is just as important as his own. God put intimacy at the center of the marital union and, while its main purpose may be for procreation, it was also created as a way for husbands and wives to bond and express their love for each other.
God is an excellent, thoughtful, and careful creator who doesn't do anything by accident. If you think that the clitoris was created as an afterthought, then think again! This special organ that has over 8,000 sensitive nerve endings serves no other purpose than to bring a woman sexual pleasure, and it should never be overlooked during the sexual relations between Christian husbands and wives.
The problem is that many men believe that a women's orgasm is somehow secondary to their own, and perhaps an even bigger problem is that many women believe it as well. A lot of couples consider intimacy to be over when the man orgasms, often leaving women feeling unsatisfied or thinking that their pleasure is unimportant. This is not to say that intercourse itself is not pleasurable for women. It most definitely is, depending on how she is feeling, it may be all that a woman wants in certain situations. However, it doesn't make for a very fair or healthy marriage if a woman is never given the chance to have an orgasm as well.
Experiencing intense pleasure in each others arms is one of the most effective ways for husbands and wives to feel closer and more connected. There is, of course, more to intimacy than orgasms and physical pleasure, but the importance of the sexual side of marriage cannot be overestimated. Orgasms, both hers and yours, encourage biological, emotional, psychological, and spiritual bonding all at once!
Start treating your wife's orgasm as just as important as your own. Mix up your sex life so that she is given a chance to orgasm as well, and keep in mind that you do not both have to climax at the same time. Create an open dialog about what she wants and in what ways her body responds well. Acknowledging the God-given importance of the pleasure of both the husband and the wife is a sure-fire way to enhance your sex life and your marriage overall.
Insight from Scripture
“But I have a few things against you: You permit that woman Jezebel, who calls herself a prophetess, to teach and seduce My servants to commit sexual immorality and eat food sacrificed to idols. - Revelation 2: 20