"Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness?
"Good Christian men aren't hiding. It's just that you will not find them in places most people look to find relationships. He will be more reserved and thoughtful, and has been brought up knowing that his responsibilities are in the Lord." These words from Bishop T. D. Jakes provide hope for women seeking a healthy, godly, romantic relationship with a man. However, what does one do when two options become apparent?
Being in love is supposed to be one of the happiest times in your life, but it can quickly become stressful when you find yourself trying to choose between two men. Having to pick which romantic partner you want to be with can be a heart-wrenching process. What will you do if you make the wrong decision? You do not want to risk ending up with the wrong guy, therefore, it is essential that you make the best choice. Before you make your final decision, there are a variety of factors that you should consider. The following seven tips will help you decide which man you want to have in your life once and for all.
1. Think about who makes you happier
Think about how each guy makes you feel. Make sure to evaluate why he makes you feel that way. You may also want to consider the following questions: Which man can make you smile and laugh more? Which guy can cheer you up when you are in a bad mood? Which man inspires you to be a better person? Considering the answers to these questions may help determine who makes you genuinely happier.
2. Make a list of pros and cons
One popular way to decide between two romantic partners is to make a list comparing each person's positive and negative attributes. Writing this list can help you decide which man has more favorable characteristics. Comparing each guy's strengths and weaknesses may allow you to see each man from a new perspective. Making a list of your thoughts and feelings can clear up confusion.
3. Evaluate compatibility
When you think about your compatibility with each man, make sure to consider every aspect of the relationship, beginning with spiritual beliefs. A person's faith shapes his or her worldview, and differing world views can destroy a relationship. Indeed, the Apostle Paul warned against believers being partners with unbelievers (see 2 Corinthians 6). It is important to judge compatibility in terms of what you personally look for in a partner. As another example, if gender-role compatibility is extremely important to you, then be sure to evaluate how compatible each man is in this area. When thinking about compatibility, you should consider any way that each partner may not be well-suited for you.
4. Consider his financial situation
Some may say that money doesn't matter in a relationship, however, for others money is a deal breaker. Finances have the potential to lead to severe problems within a relationship, therefore, it is important to have at least a general idea of each man's financial situation. For instance, if one guy has substantial debt, would you be comfortable taking on his debt if you two were married? Think about what each man's financial circumstance would mean in the context of your relationship.
5. Think about your future
Imagine your ideal situation in the future. Based on your goals and aspirations, which man best fits into what you picture for your life? This could also be related to the lifestyle you want to have. For example, if you love to travel, but one guy doesn't, it's necessary to consider how this could impact your future. Also, if you would like to get married or have children, consider who you feel would be a better husband or father.
6. Consider his family and friends
It's important to look closely at the people in each guy's social circle. You may want to think about the following questions: Do you like his family and friends? Would you mind if these people were around in the future? Do his family and friends support your relationship? Are they overall good people? The people that he spends the most time with will influence him, and they could play a positive or negative role in your relationship.
7. Evaluate your attraction to each man
Take time to decide which man you are more attracted to. This includes all types of attraction, not just physical attraction. You should think about what qualities you really enjoy in a romantic partner. For instance, if a good sense of humor is something you cannot live without, you should pick the guy who always knows how to make you laugh. It is important to be attracted to a variety of your romantic partner's attributes.
Deciding between two men can be very difficult. You do not want to make a mistake and choose the wrong person, but at some point it becomes necessary to make a final choice. Being able to make a final decision will help you move forward and allow you to focus your attention on one guy. It's critical to evaluate all relevant factors before making this tough decision. These seven tips for choosing between two men will help guide you, so that you can feel confident in your choice.