"Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice."

No one likes having to walk on eggshells around someone who gets upset or offended at every little thing they say or do. Knowing that you just cannot seem to do anything right in the eyes of someone else is not a good feeling, especially when that someone else is your spouse. A good marriage, where both partners are caring and understanding of one another, should never have this kind of pressure.

Your spouse should not be afraid to try to make you laugh or to be a silly with you from time to time. They should not have to be watching what they do or say every minute of the day. Relationships need room to breathe. The happiest married couples are those who aren't constantly picking apart the possible hidden meaning behind what the other person has said, or seeing every comment some kind of personal attack.

Keep in mind that this doesn't mean that you should let your spouse get away with being mean or intentionally offensive. You have every right to demand that they treat you with respect and accept any boundaries you may have. Not being "too sensitive" should not apply in situations in which your partner shows no caring or compassion for you.

However, if you truly have a loving and caring relationship, then you can only benefit from giving some leeway to your spouse. Maybe they forgot that you had important plans or an important appointment. Things like this happen. If they are truly sorry, then you may want to consider not holding it against them, at least not for too long. Everyone can be forgetful, no matter how much they care.

If your attitude towards your spouse is one in which you are always looking out for what they do wrong rather than paying attention to what they do right, then things are going to get very stressful very quickly. We all have the propensity to make minor mistakes and to say the wrong thing at the wrong time. But, if no one in a relationship is willing to let minor things slide, then you will find yourselves constantly at each other's throats.

In Ephesians 4:31 the Bible teaches us to "get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice." These inspirational words of encouragement should apply to all your relationships, but most of all to your relationship with your husband or wife. A good marriage has no room for malice of any sort, and allowing bitterness, rage, and anger to seep into your marital relationship can only lead to disaster.

It is better for your spiritual, emotional, and even physical health and well-being to learn to laugh, learn to forgive, and to realize that your spouse, even though they should always strive to be caring and mindful of your feelings, is not always going to be perfect. Give them some leeway and understanding, and you will likely receive the same from them in return.


Spiritual Prayer 

I prayed to the Lord my God and confessed:

“Lord, the great and awesome God, who keeps his covenant of love with those who love him and keep his commandments, we have sinned and done wrong.We have been wicked and have rebelled; we have turned away from your commands and laws.  We have not listened to your servants the prophets, who spoke in your name to our kings, our princes and our ancestors, and to all the people of the land. “Lord, you are righteous, but this day we are covered with shame—the people of Judah and the inhabitants of Jerusalem and all Israel, both near and far, in all the countries where you have scattered us because of our unfaithfulness to you. We and our kings, our princes and our ancestors are covered with shame, Lord, because we have sinned against you.  The Lord our God is merciful and forgiving, even though we have rebelled against him;  we have not obeyed the Lord our God or kept the laws he gave us through his servants the prophets.  All Israel has transgressed your law and turned away, refusing to obey you.  “Therefore the curses and sworn judgments written in the Law of Moses, the servant of God, have been poured out on us, because we have sinned against you.  You have fulfilled the words spoken against us and against our rulers by bringing on us great disaster. Under the whole heaven nothing has ever been done like what has been done to Jerusalem.   Just as it is written in the Law of Moses, all this disaster has come on us, yet we have not sought the favor of the Lord our God by turning from our sins and giving attention to your truth.  The Lord did not hesitate to bring the disaster on us, for the Lord our God is righteous in everything he does; yet we have not obeyed him.  “Now, Lord our God, who brought your people out of Egypt with a mighty hand and who made for yourself a name that endures to this day, we have sinned, we have done wrong.  Lord, in keeping with all your righteous acts,turn away your anger and your wrath from Jerusalem, your city, your holy hill.Our sins and the iniquities of our ancestors have made Jerusalem and your people an object of scorn to all those around us.  “Now, our God, hear the prayers and petitions of your servant. For your sake, Lord, look with favor on your desolate sanctuary.  Give ear, our God, and hear;open your eyes and see the desolation of the city that bears your Name. We do not make requests of you because we are righteous, but because of your great mercy. Lord, listen! Lord, forgive! Lord, hear and act! For your sake, my God, do not delay, because your city and your people bear your Name.”