An encouraging quote from 1 Corinthians 10:24, for example, reminds us that "no one should seek their own good, but the good of others."


Marriage

It's true that some people are just naturally more thoughtful than others. There are those who always seem to have their spouse on their mind. They are always picking up small gifts or leaving kind notes for their husband or wife, and they just generally have the ability to make their spouse feel important and appreciated. If you wish you were more like this but find that you can never seem to remember to do all those little things that thoughtful people do, do not worry. It is possible to learn to be thoughtful, or, more accurately, to turn thoughtfulness into a habit.

 

The first thing to keep in mind is that you should not feel badly if you do not consider yourself to be a naturally thoughtful person. It doesn't mean that you do not care about your spouse. If you are kind, caring, and always there for your husband or wife when they need you, then you are likely already a great partner who can become that much better by learning to be more thoughtful.

 

When trying to be more thoughtful, you should not worry about what specific thing you should say or do. Just ask yourself a few simple questions throughout the day. Every time you interact with your spouse, try to remember to ask yourself if there is anything you could do that would make them happier or help them out. If, for example, you know they are going to have a busy day, then you can offer to run an errand or do a chore for them.

 

Focus on being a good listener rather than fretting about being thoughtful. If you pay close attention and genuinely care about your spouse, then they will let you know what they need by their words and actions. If you do not actually listen to your husband or wife, then you will never know what you should be thoughtful about!

 

If you need some extra help being thoughtful, then do not be afraid to turn to God. Pray to Him and ask Him to help turn you into a more thoughtful person so that you can be a better partner for your spouse. You can also draw inspiration from scripture by devoting some time every day to sitting down and reading the Bible. The Bible is full of motivating verses that can remind you to put your spouse first. An encouraging quote from 1 Corinthians 10:24, for example, reminds us that "no one should seek their own good, but the good of others."

 

At the end of the day, just remember that some of the thoughtful people you see may naturally be that way, but most have probably made the conscious decision to act how they do. Over time, you will find that being thoughtful starts to come naturally to you too. Being thoughtful doesn't have to be exhausting. All it takes is genuine caring, the ability to listen, and once in a while asking yourself if there is anything you can do to make your significant other feel more appreciated.